One day I was talking with one friend about the topic ‘Freedom in Relationships’. I told her my opinion which I expressed in writing in the last days and that I believe couples have to spend time together. She said ‘But isn’t it horrible when you have a couple as friends and they always are of the same opinion, they can never decide one without the other? They don’t even have the freedom to have their own opinion or to go somewhere without the other one!’
As an answer I first had to say that it always depends on the persons whom you are talking about. Sometimes this can happen because of insecurity. Two people are nearly glued to each other and when you ask one of them, he will always first turn to her and vice versa to search for the answer. Then it is true, they are not really together because they enjoy freedom and love but they are together because they need the other one to help with decisions. The reason is fear and emotional insecurity. When two people are insecure and they find each other, then it sometimes doesn’t matter if the other one can give love or just some security.
You are right, that is not real freedom because each of the two is afraid of being with the other one. This concept is far away from the idea of wanting to be together every minute of life just because of love. That is what I want, closeness always, because of love, not because of fear. And then love will give you security in a very positive way. Just enjoy, be free as you were as a single but with your full heart and soul in your relationship!
Today Annick drove us from Bocholt to Rhede and this is how, when we had ice-cream today, we were missing Konsti and his lovely family.