I mentioned already that people often have difficulties to surrender and devote in relationships. It has to do with the upbringing, the culture and of course with each person individually. For some it is easier than for others. However I always believe you should make an effort to be really together, to live life together and not two separate lives apart from each other so that you sometimes meet, just like you meet your friends. Otherwise I would not call it partnership or relationship but just two people who live together, roommates, friends.
Some couples are very proud to tell that they do something together. Proudly they say ‘We went on holiday together’. Do not get me wrong, I am not talking about two people who just met some weeks ago. No, people who have been married for more than ten years say this. Isn’t it just normal that you go on holidays together? You are in love, you are a couple, of course you do things together.
I say this because I sometimes have the impression that people have a relationship simply because you are supposed to have one. How is the ‘normal way of life’ in eyes of society? You go to school, learn for a profession, in that time or in the beginning of your career you meet someone, you date, you flirt, you meet, you fix your relationship, you marry and many times the next step are children. I think it is still the common picture of life in people’s minds even though the ‘single life’ is more and more often seen, too. So I believe if you only are in a relationship because you need to be able to say that you have a partner but you do not spend any time together, it is not really a relationship. Why do you need it then, just leave it. No, go for love, not just for easy comfort with some compromises. Your love is out there, go and get it!