Yesterday I wrote about masturbation and why it is really very natural to help yourself to an orgasm. On a similar statement of mine, a friend recently had a small objection, saying ‘Too much indulgence in masturbation may lead to lack of interest in partnered sex’. I thought that this idea is definitely worth a few lines in my blog!
So you are saying if you masturbate too much, you don’t feel like sleeping with your partner anymore, right? I think that cannot really happen because masturbation is only a substitute when you lack proper sex. It can never replace the actual joy of sexual intercourse in between two human beings. If you feel like it does, you need to work on your sex life and your relationship!
Sex is when there are two people involved. Masturbation is natural – but really only an option if you don’t have a boyfriend or girlfriend. If you have a partner, getting intimate with that person should always be more interesting than giving satisfaction to yourself! If you are in a relationship and you feel the need to masturbate, you should seriously think about why you are actually in a relationship – or why you still feel this way. If you can get a Mercedes, why would you take an auto-rickshaw?
So I feel it is the other way around: it is not too much masturbation that causes a lack of interest in sex with your wife or husband. It is the missing interest that causes the other one to take more interest into doing it himself or herself!
So if you feel this way, I suggest analyzing exactly what is happening. Are you not happy in your relationship in general and that’s why you are not interested in your partner anymore? Or is your sex life not satisfying you, is it too boring or do you have any fantasies that you don’t dare to share with the other one? Talk, talk, talk! You need to share whatever it is with your partner in order to fix the issue and get your sex life working again!
Let’s summarize it all: masturbation is nothing to feel guilty about and it doesn’t cause you any harm. No newspaper advertisement for dubious medication should be able to sell you cure for ‘past mistakes’ which cause premature ejaculation or a small penis! Even if you masturbated your whole teenage time through, those problems are unrelated. So if you don’t have anybody to enjoy with, help yourself.
If you have someone to have sex with however and don’t really feel like it, solve the matter instead of masturbating and bring back the fun in your love life. Because even if your relationship should not be based on sex alone, it is a very important part of it!