I yesterday mentioned someone telling me how porn, in his opinion, increased the number of rape cases in India. I already told you that I think of lust as a very beautiful emotion. Today I want to get to the false reasoning that porn could increase rape incidents because of creating lust.
Simply said, this conclusion is wrong. Porn is not the reason for rape. Men don’t watch porn, get lustful and then, with no other way to get satisfaction, go out to search for a woman to rape. Watching porn does not mean that you start raping people!
By the way – women also watch porn! To some people this may come as a surprise but it is a fact. So how come they don’t get crazy and rape men all around? Don’t laugh about the idea – there is rape by women with men as victims, it just doesn’t happen as often and is very often just suppressed as a crime as well. But the fact remains: women watch porn, too, so what happens with their lust?
When there were no porn movies, there was other art and literature, as I already mentioned yesterday. It is ages old, nothing new! Just think of the erotic temple sculptures in Khajuraho! According to your theory, everyone looking at this porn – which it is, just not as technically advanced – would soon feel the urge to go and rape someone because of all his lust! Imagine tourists paying to see the Kamsutra temples, getting an urge while looking at them and then grabbing the tourist next to them! What a dangerous world heritage site!
Jokes aside, I tell you that neither porn nor lust is the reason for rape.
There are people who say women’s clothing is the reason for rape. Others say it is the westernization of Indian society. Some ridiculous people – who really have others believing them – say it is the fault of mobiles or western food! You think it is porn movies. You can keep your thought but I don’t agree. In my eyes, the reason is the suppression of lust and in some cases the instrumentalisation of sex to suppress women.
You can imagine where I am going: in societies which are more open towards sex and in which gender equality is further advanced, there is not as much sexual crime as in countries in which women are suppressed and sex is a big taboo! Where there is suppression and where you hide everything related to sex, it breaks out as a result.
For men who believe in dominating the other gender, rape is a tool to show a woman her place. An action to destroy her willpower and to prove to her that she is weak. No lust is required, no enjoyment is had. I believe that even the rapist does not get real satisfaction!
And as I have already pointed out, the base of suppression, both of the other gender and of the natural sexual instinct and need, is religion. Religion, traditions and culture have turned out sexual desire unnaturally into a monster in the minds of people. You are not allowed to have sex, think of sex or enjoy sex! If you do, you are dirty, have committed a sin and will be punished for it! It is this suppression that makes it blow up at some point!
If you have a healthy love life, you obviously never get stuck with pent-up lust inside you. Why would anybody rape when he is sexually satisfied? If you don’t have anybody near you to enjoy your lust with, it’s a different matter. Also in this case however, rape is not the logical consequence! Everyone knows that there is a solution as well: you can help yourself! Yes, men and women both have all physical possibilities to relieve themselves. Unfortunately, also this is restricted: religion has told everyone that you could get blind, that you are wasting life energy and again, that you are committing a sin! I will dedicate another blog entry on masturbation and the problem that many people feel guilty about this act on one of the next days.
At the end, we just remain with one conclusion: porn is not the reason for rape. Suppression of lust is – and the result is what we see in India.