Yesterday I wrote a question and my answer and after each lecture it is normal that there is some time for people to ask me about something, the topic of the lecture or anything else. As I gave lectures already when I was nine years old I have a lot of experience with this and I can categorize four different kinds of questioners:
1. Kind number one are people who are really curious to know the answer to their question. They are enthusiastic and you can see how thirsty they are to get this knowledge. They hang on your lips and absorb each word you say.
2. The second kind of people is those whose main intention is not to receive an answer but to show how intelligent they are and how much they know. They will explain very long and in a complicated way and in the end it happens often that you do not know what their question actually was. These questions are only ego-driven and they want to impress you with their knowledge.
3. People of type number three want to test you and your knowledge. They ask something although they know the answer only to see if you know it, too. It is like an exam. Actually they do not want to be students and learn but they would like to be teaching.
4. The last type of people does not show any enthusiasm and only asks you in order to criticize you and what you say. They don’t argue logically but in whatever answer you give them they will find a point to make another argument. They come with a fix idea and they want to fight.
The last three types do not really need an answer. The second type of questioners only wants to present own knowledge and is not interested in yours. Those who want to test you know the answer already and it doesn’t make sense to answer those who are only fighting because they will criticize everything.
However it is a pleasure to give answers to the first type of people. Their questions come from the heart, from their devotion. Only they can get a real answer and only for them it will be of any use.
Today we went to Hamburg with Michael and Andrea and met our friend Gary Birch who is professional golf player. He will fly to the US soon and for saying goodbye we spent a nice afternoon together.
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I remember myself when I was younger in spiritual lectures. I would ask question as either type 2 or 3. Once I noticed what I was actually doing, I stopped asking questions altogether. i still don’t ask questions because I know my tendencies, and while I dislike that part of ego in me I am aware that it is not completely gone yet, so I stay silent and I think right now that is healthy for me.
Not sure if you can always separate one type of questioner from another, I think a lot of people are a mix and getting more than one thing from asking a question publicly. I also believe that type #1 is very hard to find, especially one who is just #1 and not a blend of the others. For instance- really wants to know the answer, but loves hearing their voice fill a room so everyone can see how smart they are.
I like the way you put this. It makes me want to examine myself.
Cool.
If you don’t test your masters then how can you trust them?
I teach high school Spanish in the US and trust me, they are all 4’s.