Yesterday I described how families have less and less of a family life and thus take part less and less in each other’s lives as well. This leads to another problem which I would like to discuss today: there is little to no trust in between family members!
It is actually quite obvious: for developing trust, you have to know each other. For knowing each other, you have to be with each other, spend time with each other. The more time you spend with the other one, the better you know him and the more you can trust. Nowadays however, people don’t spend time with their family members. They don’t have time to get to know them. This means they just cannot develop the trust I am talking about!
This is actually very sad because it is already so difficult in this world to trust anybody! Your family members could be the most reliable people, those whom you can trust easiest. But both, in India and even more so in the west, people don’t really live like families anymore. Whatever the reasons may be, people are not close to each other anymore. I believe this is partly a reason for today’s big amount of psychological problems in the world.
When you can trust someone, you can relax. It gives you peace in your daily life and also mental support in difficult situations. Even if a problem doesn’t get that worse that you need to ask your brother for money, you know that he is there and would lend you some. You know that you could move into your parents’ home for some time if things don’t work out with your boyfriend in your common flat. You know that you could call your sister, a lawyer, doctor, cook or mother and get her professional help if needed. But you cannot – because there is no trust!
Without wanting to go far into the topic, I just want to hint on one consequence that this lack of trust has: banks make more money! When in earlier times family members borrowed money from each other, they now hesitate asking their own siblings to lend them something, even if it is just a few hundreds. They would rather overdraw their bank account and pay lots of interest. People take a loan from a bank in order to buy a house from their parents – instead of paying it off month by month, just as they now pay back the loan. The only one that makes money is the bank. They have the profit from the missing trust!
It is a problem that is quite deep in the society. So deep that most people wouldn’t even consider the consequences as real problems. They understand why it is as it is. Because they themselves cannot trust.
I know they cannot but it would be great if they could. I understand why it is not possible but I wish it was!
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