I yesterday wrote about the big problem that women at the age of 35 or 40 have who want to have a baby: pressure and stress.
I actually have met many couples who wish for a baby and have a lot of stress because of this wish. Both, men and women, suffer under this pressure when they want to have a baby but it somehow doesn’t work. They try, they calculate and test when is the ovulation period and they try every trick that they hear about. Nothing works.
They test him and her if one of them is infertile. Often however there is no result. Everything seems to be fine but just she does not get pregnant. They even try with the help of IVF, in vitro fertilization, but the chances that this works, are relatively low, too. I know many people who have tried several times to help nature in this way and it never worked.
I know a couple however who, after eight years of marriage, still were childless. They then had many IVFs but nothing worked. Finally, they simply gave up. She was getting close to 40 and they were just tired of trying. They left the thought and went on with their lives. After 12 years of marriage, their baby son was then lying in his cradle, his proud and happy parents at his sides. As soon as they relaxed, they had not any problem to conceive.
What I want to say is that often the biggest problem is your inner situation! You need to find a way to relax. In pressure and stress, nothing is good and nothing works. You need to have trust in that ultimate power that everything will go the way it should. When you don’t have a child but a lot of stress, it is more difficult. You need to relax.