Why do Religions Emphasize Celibacy – 7 Mar 10

City:
Vrindavan
Country:
India

Why did religions make so many restrictions for sex? They have to have an opinion on it because it is an important part of life. So how come so many religions want to restrict it, want to forbid it?

I believe that is because it is the most beautiful and most enjoyable feeling to be united in love as close as it is possible. It is just natural to enjoy this. And that is why religions try to gain power over it. This is how monks and Brahmacharis try to or should live without having sex: it shows that they have gained a victory over this feeling. They actually build their ego on being stronger than natural feelings like this. They want to be stronger. What they don’t realize is that, as a human person with a mind and intelligence, everyone is able to control their sexual urges best, when they can also express them in the right situations.

We all know about the cases about abuse of children by monks, priests and other spiritual people who are supposed to live a celibate life. You cannot suppress nature, this is the result! And why would especially Hinduism actually forbid sex for their spiritual people? If you think of those people whom they call their saints and who are everywhere regarded as very spiritual people like Ramkrishna Paramahansa or Kabir, you will realize that they all had wives. They and many others were married and had children! And not only them. If you see sex as a sin then have a look at those whom you are worshipping. Lord Ram was married to Sita, Shiva to Parvati and Krishna had Radha. All these Gods had women in their lives and had children, too, so they were not sleeping in separate beds. How could this concept develop so strongly? It is just unnatural. Religions need to accept this.

4 Replies to “Why do Religions Emphasize Celibacy – 7 Mar 10”

  1. Very good article. I especially noticed the part about brahmacaris actually building their egos, rather than transcending the ego, by “showing off” how advanced and renounced they are.
    I have experienced this, when I was a Hare Krishna monk almost 30 years ago, for a couple of years, and another insight I got was that if you try hard to be a celibate, the result is often that you get extremely fixated on sex, but in a negative way. Saying NO to sex all the time, continuously, which in the long run means saying no to love, no to life, no to intense ecstasy.

  2. I was going to be a nun when I was little. I thought so, then I’d never have to deal with stupid boys and relationships and everything else that was a part of the world except religion. But, then I grew up and realized balance is better.

  3. I think you are spot on with this insight, Swami. Sex is as strong of an urge as hunger. Many spiritual teachings have recommended that you learn how to be a master over these desires in order to prove your strength– with fasting and celibacy. But what is the point in proving that you can control an urge? We should learn how to express our natural urges with a spiritual mindset and energy.