Of course I meet people in all situations of life, people who just fell in love, people who have lover’s grief, people whose heart was broken and those who feel guilty about breaking a heart, people who lost someone they loved and people who love someone who will never be theirs. They don’t always come because of these situations but of course these situations have a big influence on their emotions, their mind, their thinking and well-being.
And one of the saddest situations that people come with is when the partner, whom they loved very much, cheated on them and they found out surprisingly, not suspecting anything. Then a man or a woman sits in front of me and just asks me with a longing look in the eyes: ‘Why?’
I do not have an answer.
I also meet those who have cheated and there are always many different reasons given, sometimes with much guilt, sometimes lacking any similar feeling. And of course, every case is different. I many times hear a sentence which to me seems like an excuse for what you have done: ‘You need to understand that I am going through a very hard time.’ What hard time? A hard time with your relationship? If so, then this doesn’t give you a reason to go into someone else’s bed. They say they have emotional problems, coping with them is not easy and that is why they had to sleep with someone else than with husband or wife. And if it is not a hard time with your partner but in another part of life, then why don’t you share it with your partner? Then why are you married if not for sharing emotional problems with the other one? Why, if not to be together and go through everything together? Love is when you want to enjoy and laugh together, when you want to smile and celebrate together but also cry together and give each other support in difficult times. Isn’t that your vow of marriage: in good times and in bad?