Do you Enjoy being a Victim? – 24 Feb 09

You are currently viewing Do you Enjoy being a Victim? – 24 Feb 09

Today I had a very interesting talk with my dear friends Roger and Mady. I was sharing some of my experiences with them. On my journeys I meet many people and as a healer I have to face many problems which are routed deeply in people’s hearts. When I analyze their problems psychologically there is always this question if they really wish to be cured.

I often meet people who come to me for healing particular issues and they tell me that they are since many years suffering from this, this and this. But many times I feel that they are not ready to leave these problems. They want to hold them and keep them because if their problem is gone, they will miss it. They do not find anything with which they could replace it. They will not have any issue. After spending some time with a problem, the problem becomes a companion and they like to keep it. After a while with this problem they like to be in the role of the victim.

They do not want to remove the label of victim. They pretend to the outer world that it is a problem but they do not make a decision to leave their problem. People who have received sympathy because of their problem will miss this sympathy because they got used to it and like it.

I am healer and I would like to give them healing in a smooth way like a sweet tablet which cures them but sometimes it is necessary to give them a bitter tablet, sometimes it is also necessary to give them an injection and sometimes it is even necessary to do surgery. And I do it because my aim is to cure and to heal them.

Related posts

Don't base your Self-Esteem on your Habit of controlling others! - 16 Sep 16

Don’t base your Self-Esteem on your Habit of controlling others! – 16 Sep 16

Swami Balendu describes how it can make control freaks feel bad about themselves when they try to stop controlling others ...
The Chemistry of Advice and personal Experience - 1 Aug 16

The Chemistry of Advice and personal Experience – 1 Aug 16

Swami Balendu explains how advice is always also autobiographical – which is why you cannot take just any man's advice ...
Why you should not try to be perfect - 24 Feb 16

Why you should not try to be perfect – 24 Feb 16

Swami Balendu explains how your perfectionism can actually harm you. Read about mistakes, lessons for life and how to not ...
When Women accept their Husbands' extramarital Affairs - 7 Dec 15

When Women accept their Husbands’ extramarital Affairs – 7 Dec 15

Swami Balendu describes the situation of women in India as well as in the west, who accept that their husbands ...
What to do when things are not according to your ideals - 24 Nov 15

What to do when things are not according to your ideals – 24 Nov 15

Swami Balendu describes what you should do when you have strong ideals and feel like the world is going against ...
What to do if insecure People want to put you down - 18 Nov 15

What to do if insecure People want to put you down – 18 Nov 15

Swami Balendu describes a type of person who is basically insecure and satisfies his or her ego by putting others ...
How to deal with the Knowledge that you won't be alive much longer - 28 Oct 15

How to deal with the Knowledge that you won’t be alive much longer – 28 Oct 15

Swami Balendu writes about life-threatening diseases and handicaps, how to deal with the news of such a disease or accidents ...
Dealing with Difficulties - afraid or ready to take them on? - 26 Oct 15

Dealing with Difficulties – afraid or ready to take them on? – 26 Oct 15

Swami Balendu tells how your cultural background can give you a different reaction to difficulties coming your way ...
Your Perception changes your World - 21 Oct 15

Your Perception changes your World – 21 Oct 15

Swami Balendu describes how your upbringing, culture and situation influence your point of view – and how you can become ...

This Post Has 5 Comments

  1. Jules

    When we come from that victim place inside of us, we are reflecting an archaic belief that began during our pre- and perinatal experience. It was the perception of what happened to us and what we made it mean about ourselves – that prompted us to take on this archaic belief. Imprints were created during the prenatal time and continue to be repeated as we move forward after birth.

  2. Theo

    I identify with this. Don’t worry about missing your problems- put something else in your life.

  3. Joe

    I can’t stand when people do this. Have some respect for yourself! don’t let old pain ruin your future.

  4. Samantha

    I think it is important to have a little more compassion for people. Even if you find their problems unnecessary and unattractive.

  5. Mirela

    I don’t understand how people feel some kind of pleasure while telling others that they are victims of something or somebody. It’s easier to hang out and neglect everything while being in a bad mood, then solving problems and start to lead a happy life.

Leave a Reply