What to do if insecure People want to put you down

Today I would like to write about a kind of attitude which can be perceived like negativity sometimes. There are people who thoroughly enjoy putting other people down. They are not actually negative – but they enjoy putting you into a negative space, a mood in which you don’t feel good anymore!

I am sure you have already met such people in your life as well! No matter what you tell them, they will criticize something about your story, how you acted or what your thoughts are to this topic. Intentionally, they will say something that provokes you or gives you the feeling of not being welcome in that conversation or being wrong.

I believe this is a psychological problem and has very much something to do with self-esteem. These people can be educated and even have lots of degrees but they don’t feel good about themselves. They are not secure in their self-confidence and want to satisfy their ego by showing that they are superior to others.

That’s how they have fun in putting others down. They believe the way they are doing things is the only and best way. Everybody who does anything different is practically stupid and thus inferior to them – so that they can feel good about themselves. For this, they don’t hesitate to hurt another person. Knowing that they are in fact terribly unhappy with themselves, with the world and life around them, is the base for dealing with such situations.

Set your boundaries and limits for such people as soon as you realize how they are acting. If you don’t want to be unhappy along with them and don’t want to be dragged into this miserable mood they want to create for you, you need to block their attempts. The best is to get rid of them as soon as possible. You have no chance of having a normal conversation. You cannot correct them because they are convinced that they know everything better anyway! They won’t stop until you are unhappy and feel bad.

So remember that they are actually the ones feeling insecure and having a problem with their self-esteem and their ego. Don’t let them reach until your feelings. Don’t take them serious in what they say and best of all, keep conversations short and light. In this way, you will avoid having your good mood and feelings ruined by someone who just wants to make others feel bad!