Parenting Fun: having Difficulties, overcoming them and facing them again!

Today we noticed – obviously with pleasant surprise – that Apra did not anymore do what she did quite a lot a few weeks ago: have huge temper tantrums! I would knock on wood if I thought that would help but it seems as though this phase is over. That’s what we realized one more: that development really comes in phases. A certain behavior starts and then there is the time when it also ends. And maybe repeats again.

We have had quite a few parents of teenage children or adults here in the past months, which was a time during which it seemed to be a daily ritual for Apra to melt down in anger just at dinner time in front of everyone! You can imagine that great fun these shows were for us, the hosts and parents! 🙂

The best advice someone gave us on this was: don’t worry, in three months, this will be over.

It is true, we have noticed this with many of her ways of behavior! I know that there are a lot of perfectionist parents out there who worry really a lot about their children and the way they act. They look at their children and feel a strange sense of disappointment, they get upset about their actions and don’t see it as part of the child’s learning process!

Don’t make yourself feel that bad! We all want to do the right thing, we want them to be great human beings – but if you keep on worrying about making mistakes, you will have difficulty giving your best for this! But if you are doing your best, there is no reason to worry! We always have the example of the children of our school in front of us, where there are often five to seven siblings of parents who cannot even read or write. They, too, manage to raise their children and when you see the adults that come out of this, you would say they are just fine! So you, with all your education and the internet as a resource possibility for everything you need, from advice to game ideas, will also create a decent human being, I am sure!

You are doing the best you can. Even though it cannot hurt to sometimes rethink and analyze your own reactions and ways of educating your child, I think you should not take too much tension worrying about the result, consulting books or specialists and comparing methods.

Give a bit more of yourself, your time and undivided attention, and most of all, enjoy this great time!

At the end however I have to share this wonderful assurance a visiting friend gave us: you are in this situation now, you will manage it and then feel good. When you least expect it, this same problem will reappear!

A fun that we will have for another 18 years – or more!