What to do when you have to be around a negative Person

Two days ago, I have told you about people who are so strongly negative from their inside, that one can just never satisfy them. Yesterday I explained that we try to avoid such situations by finding out before what a person expects from their stay here. It also happens however that such people come to us. How do we deal with them and what can you do when you find yourself around an extremely negative person?

As business owners offering a service, we see it as our responsibility to satisfy our customers. This seems like a rather dry sentence but it is the truth: we offer a stay at our Ashram and we want to make those happy who come to us! It is like an open shop, we also advertise and in general, it is a place for everybody. That’s how we try to make everybody happy.

We try to tackle also those professionally who seem to be always negative. We try to satisfy them, take their feedback, try to fulfill their wishes in every direction we can. Those who are negative however, may decide to remain negative out of their own wish. If we realize that it is simply not possible to satisfy them, that they would have to bring a change inside themselves to be happy, we change the strategy.

Obviously, it depends on your relation to the other person whether you need to even make this much effort to satisfy him or her. If you cannot avoid being with such a person, try to avoid confrontation. Avoid the situations in which the other one gets very upset. Listen to what they say and agree wherever you do. If you don’t, you don’t need to loudly object. Simply listen – only tell your opinion if you really have to. You already know that they will bring negativity into everything, so just take it easy and let them say what they want!

Of course you can say that communication reduces automatically in this way. You know that nothing positive will come out if you ask anything, so you are even afraid of asking the other one how he or she is. You cut down asking but in order to just keep a minimum of happiness and satisfaction, as much as is somehow possible, you will keep saying good morning, good evening and further basic communication.

Even then, the other one can find something to regret or be unhappy about. Such people can get sad even just due to the fact that others are happy. It might be an opportunity for them to be happy as well – but instead of accepting it, they find it a chance to regret that others are happy.

As I said, you just cannot help them be happy. You just need to accept the situation as it is and take it easy. It has happened before that you met such people and I am sure it will happen in the future as well. For some time, your ways are crossing but there will someday be an end as well!

It is another chance to practice accepting others as they are – without making yourself crazy about it!