To abort or not to abort - with four possible Fathers!

When I am already telling you about interesting individual sessions that I had with people who came to me for help and advice, I think I can add another such incident from the year 2006. It was again in Australia, where I started the year, and it was a pregnant woman who came to me this time. Her problem? She did not know who the father of her baby was.

She did not actually come to me with the question who it was. I never advertised myself as a clairvoyant and she knew that I would not be able to tell her the answer to this question. No, she came for sorting out her mind and reach a decision: should she keep this baby or not? Obviously, I was not going to give her a clear answer to this, either.

The fact was that this woman had actually four different candidates who could be the father of the child. She told me about this with no regret, in a matter-of-fact way that made me wonder about the nature of the problem at first. She soon came to the point though: she was emotionally attached only to one of these men. She had slept with all of them through a period of her life when she just didn’t care. Now however she was a bit more sure – not fully, a bit more! – that she wanted to spend her life with this one man. But what if the baby was from one of the others?

She was in a dilemma: she knew that she would never keep a baby from the other men. They would not be there for her, they might not even pay for the baby and she would be on her own, raising this baby. But she was not sure whether it was theirs. She was sure however that this one man, with whom she was in love now, would be a wonderful father. But what if it was not his?

There were so many questions on her mind! Should she tell him? If she told him that she had slept with three other men at that time, maybe he would not want to be with her at all anymore? But she didn’t want to abort the child just without asking him either – because there was a chance that it was his! And she was already thirty-five years old. Should they ever decide to have a child together and then it would not work, she would forever feel guilty about having aborted this one!

After having just had a similar situation in a session with a mother telling her 18-year-old about her real biological father, I could give her my opinion: always be honest. I will never suggest you to either abort or not to abort because you will need to feel whether it is right for you to abort a fetus or it is right for you to raise a child alone, maybe with financial difficulties.

For one thing however I can be very clear: don’t keep this child while being with this man and pretending that it is his while you are not sure! Talk to him about it and make matters clear. When you love someone, you need to be honest about every point of your life so that you know each other’s past and can decide to love the other one with every part that belongs to him!

I have not heard back from this woman anymore and don’t know what happened to her. She thought about what I said however and I hope she found a decision which made her happy.