Some time ago I told about people who have left my life or with whom I could not stay together anymore because they were very religious and I was not. Their expectation on my religious views was too high. Another attitude with which I have always had problems in my life is some people’s idea to value everything by money.
Interestingly I have experienced this especially with rich people. You might think that a poor person would think of everything how much it is worth but often it is those who can afford nearly everything they want to have, who calculate every action and every feeling in financial values.
I have made the experience several times that someone gets close to me and there is a nice relation but then problems arise because for the other one, everything is about money. When I realize this and feel this, it feels strange. It can even hurt when you have an emotion and you express it through an action of love and you get a reply of money.
Unfortunately there are many people who think about everything in a certain currency. This attitude makes people stingy, too, especially people who have more than enough. You may now say that they became rich only through their stinginess but that is not really admirable to me. Who would not like to be rich and have much money? I think everybody would be happy to live in financial abundance but the attitude towards money has to be right, too. What did your stinginess bring you except for money? Are you happy because of stinginess?
When such a person, rich, stingy and valuing everything with money, gives something to a poor person, he will always believe he gave a lot. It doesn’t matter whether he gave twenty Rupees to a beggar or he gave a few Dollars more tip, he is proud of this action and believes to have done a big charity. What he doesn’t realize is that the beggar knows exactly that he could have given ten or even hundred times more without having a financial problem. He could have tipped much more and the waiter also knows this. Such a person however expects great thankfulness for this small money. A really generous heart gives without expectation and without stinginess.
At this point I have to make clear that I have met many rich people who were really generous and had no hesitation to give at any time to someone who was in need. It is an experience that wealth creates another attitude in many people but it is by far not everyone who is affected by this problem.
Don’t value everything with money. There are different ways of seeing the world and money is not the most important thing. If you want to give, give generously and don’t expect anything back. If you get something, appreciate it with your heart, not with your purse.
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I made the same experiance. Years ago I worked for a parcel service. in the region were the working clase lived I always get tips but never from the rich people. i still remember an old lady from whom I knowed she don’t had much money but she always gave a tip and I feel often a sham to take it. Love Armin
I was talking with Marina about the West the feelings of insecurity there. Because the West has left behind a general joy for simplicity and the basic (and ancient) understanding of how to live peacefully with nature, people in the West lack this sense of security in life. They don’t have a sense of gratitude and love with their basic needs getting met, and so they need more in order to feel secure. In this way, money becomes like a security blanket that is valued very much. It’s sad because it takes the place of valued relationships and sharing love itself.