After yesterday’s explanation why married couples of the lower class prefer pretending to be happy in their marriage rather than breaking up or even getting divorced, I would like to write about the middle class today. This means I will write about people who have enough money to live without worrying about survival, who have money to send their children to school, buy them good clothes and feed them well but who still need to consider well before doing bigger expenses.
They start saving money from the day their daughter is born for the girl’s wedding day. Knowing that the day will come when they will have to spend half a fortune, they go to a bank and take a marriage saving fund according to their income into which they will monthly add a certain sum of money. Usually after about twenty years, they get that money and are now ready to make big expenses for the wedding of their daughter.
It is a big party for them and everybody says ‘You marry only once in life!’ It is thus the biggest and most important day in the life of both, the bride and the groom. Once the marriage is over and they realize that it doesn’t really work out, they are in a precarious situation. Their families have spent so much on their wedding, putting all their money and their love in this one day, how can they seriously say that they would rather not be married than live with this person and in the girl’s case his family?
You have to understand that people of this financial situation try very hard to have a good standard. They do big efforts to manage their finances in a way that they can show a good standard of living to their surroundings. For them, it is important to show that they are not as poor as the lower class. They earn more and they could spend more on their wedding. It is a lot of money though, a lifetime’s savings, that would be lost on the wedding if the couple decided to get separated! They know that and everybody would see the money spent on the wedding as a big waste!
It is however not only financial reasons the keep middle class couples from getting divorced. The more money people have, the more important it is for them to put up a show for the people outside. They believe that it is a matter of the social level how happy you are in your family. If you are fighting and maybe even talk about breaking up, it is something that the low class would do, something that doesn’t suit people of their standard.
Their girls may be educated and could do a job to earn money on their own even after a divorce. Unfortunately working is seen as something that only women do who are needy and it would reduce your reputation, something that the ego of a lot of women does not allow. They prefer the difficult situation in their home, fighting with their husband and his family.
Often this leads to the separation of the home, the man and the woman moving out of the husband’s childhood home. It makes the financial situation a bit tighter but it is the only way they see to reduce tension in their marriage. Divorce is not an option.
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