How to Love a Criminal – 5 May 10

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As always when I am here in Luneburg, I am working with my friend Dr. Michael Kosak together for his patients. And there were two people this time who asked me very similar questions. They both worked in a field where they have a lot to do with criminals and crime, with ‘the bad guys’ and those who do not fit into the system. One of them said that he had difficulties protecting himself against the feeling of anger and against this brutality that these criminals have. The other man told me that he had difficulties dealing not with those people who did the crime but with the angry attitude of his colleagues and superiors who did not seem to have any feeling for the situation and how it could be better.

To both I said that it is sometimes easier to love others than to love yourself. But you need love for yourself and then you can pray for others. If you love yourself, you do not need to ask me for any protection against these criminal energies, you will feel how this love is spreading from you. You can wish well for others.

It will be difficult to say that you love the criminal and you do not need to. You do not have to go and hug him, it is not possible. But you can be a well-wisher and you can pray for him that at some point in his life he will see what is right and what is wrong. The love that you have for yourself will spread in this way with your good wishes. It is respect for the person who is there, just because he is a human being, just because he is here on this world exactly as you are. You do not like what he does but for the soul you can say your prayers.
 

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This Post Has 5 Comments

  1. Roger

    I always enjoy stories that strive to show that people are people and not monsters. sometimes it is hard to remember when faced with someone who has wronged you in horrible ways or when looking distantly at someone who’s been charged with a crime who you don’t even know.

  2. Karma

    Someone who has done something very hurtful to another is called a criminal if this action happened to be against the law. When this person did this hurtful thing, they were not themselves. They were lost in insanity. And yes they did harm and this is very sad. But to take there actions personally we do harm to ourselves. Hating and blaming them, we misunderstand there essence as well as our own.

  3. Campell

    There is a great freedom in forgiving those who have hurt you. Forgiving them requires understanding them but not in the way the ego thinks. Not by understanding or sympathizing with their mental thought patterns or by justifying their actions through logic . That would not necessarily be possible and it really makes little difference in forgiveness. Understanding them means to look at them and see the god in them.

  4. Emily

    Campell, I totally agree. Finding a way to forgive criminals and people who have wronged us will allow love to flow. Sometimes we cannot understand the reasons why they committed a crime, but we can see the god in them and allow them a chance to be a new person. Forgiveness is beautiful.

  5. Tricia

    Loving a criminal is something skin to forgiveness, I agree that it is hard to do so, after all they’ve committed something that should not go unpunished. But at the same time it is not our job to judge, not even in the slightest. I agree that we can pray for them and hope that they learn from their mistakes but it is good to remember that they are only human and humanity is full of downfalls.

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