A few days ago I had a healing session which I would like to tell you about. The man who was with me said “I don’t have love in my heart. This is my problem.”
After saying this he started crying like a child. Tears were running down his cheeks and sobs shook his chest. After a while he said, still catching his breath “I don’t have love for my wife and not for my little son, either. When I hug them, I don’t feel love!”
I looked at him and said “I don’t believe you. If you have no love, how come you are crying so much when even only thinking of this? I don’t believe that you don’t have love. Maybe you only have lost your connection. If you did not have love, how would you be longing for love and crying for love? This is the proof that you have love. You only need to reconnect with your feelings.”
I think this can be a problem of many people. He has love inside himself but he doesn’t know how to give them love. He is missing the feeling of being able to give love to those whom he actually really loves. It is all in him, otherwise he would not be crying. He just wants to pass his love on and doesn’t manage.
If you find yourself in the same situation as this man, do what I told him, too: connect yourself with your love. You believe that you don’t even have love inside yourself. But if this grieves you this much, there is love, so go out and search for it. Or rather, go in and find it! Meditation is a good way to discover your feelings and to come from head to heart. Stop thinking so much about it. Love is not about what you should say or which gifts you should bring. It is not about bringing your wife red roses or buying a new piece of jewelry. It is what is in your heart, the essence of what you are. Feel how you have not only yourself there, in your heart, but also your wife and children, your family and friends. These are the people you love.
Discover your feelings and connect with your love. And then, when you have thus discovered your love, express it. When you hug your loved one, feel how love is flowing in between the two of you. Enjoy this feeling of simply being in love.
We enjoy being with friends again today. In the morning we left Wiesbaden and sat in a train to cross half Germany and reach Tornesch, where we will spend the coming time with Regina, Celina and Jens. It was an easy and smooth journey and we are happy to be here again.
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It is a very bad disease in the west, really, that people don’t know their love anymore. They cannot feel it, don’t know how it is to love and be loved. Actually they know how it is but they just don’t give it the name ‘love’. They have forgotten how this word feels. Although they talk a lot about it…
Often love is missing in our relations, Swami Ji, and then we cannot feel love because it is simply not there. But you are right, then we would be crying about the fact that we want something else than we have, that life is not fulfilling. The man who was with you cried about not being able to love although he actually had love for his wife. Interesting case and answer.
Love may not be about little gifts but they make a relationship even nicer :)Lovelight from Guatemala to you, Swami Ji!
Dear Lucas,Yes, I always tell people that they need to feel their feelings better. Then they will also know what they want. And they will know what love feels like.
Love to you!
Thank you Mareike and much love to you from Germany!
These are such powerful words that you have said to him. People often expect love to stay the same over years and years. I think it is a constant feeling but that the way you express it is sure to change. It is important to meditate and sit with your feelings in order to really listen to yourself.
Sometimes it is a good practice to remind yourself of why you appreciate or care about someone in order to feel your love for them. Perhaps writing down a list of things that you adore, appreciate, or admire about the people in your life would help you really feel your love.
And sometimes we need to open our own hearts to love in order to feel it. Some people have a hardness against receiving love because they are struggling to love themselves. And if you don’t love yourself, it’s very challenging to feel and show that love to someone else.
Meditation and contemplation are great practices to help conjure love in your heart. You can even imagine beautiful white light entering your body through your crown chakra and resonating in your heart chakra. With each breath you take, the white light gets warmer and brighter inside your heart. As you feel this love growing inside you, you can picture the face of someone you deeply care for and send that beautiful energy in your heart to the other person, melting their sorrows and pain, and caressing their aura with your love.