Why do we find Love beautiful but not sexy?

I recently saw a short clip, I believe it was an advertisement of some kind, in which a woman, standing in front of the mirror, asks her husband: what do you think is the most sexy part of me? The husband answers: I love every part of you, you are beautiful! She looks at him indignantly: I know you love me – but do you think I am sexy?

Obviously this clip was meant to make you laugh and the following inter-marital discussion did its job for that but it made me think about the common perception of the words 'sexy' and 'beautiful' – especially in connection with love.

Isn’t it quite common that a man would call a woman sexy without knowing her? Actresses, models, even women in their neighbourhood whom they have never spoken to. And the other way around, women can admire actors, go to a movie only because they want to see his sexy muscles or buy in the same shops because they find the salesmen sexy. You rarely however would hear one partner call the other sexy in front of other people. Beautiful, yes. Elegant, yes. But sexy would not really give a good impression for someone you love! You might even be called superficial!

How come is that? How come we find love beautiful and romantic but not sexy?

I believe it is because of the way how we see a body, how sexuality is not accepted and how we don’t love even our own body in the way that we should be loving our own and the one of others.

Is sex not related with love? In reality, I believe that love is the sexiest thing there is on this earth!

I don’t even see this word ‘sexy’ only related to body parts and there is the main problem in my opinion: I think love is sexy, I think being cute is sexy, I think a whole lot of things are sexy which don’t actually have anything to do with body parts but with the woman I love.

That’s how I believe love is sexy.