Today I would like to write about ideals. About those people in life whom we see as examples, someone who has a characteristic that we believe is worth imitating and striving for. Let me just tell you about the process of how this should change over the course of years:
When you are a child, you automatically have role models: your parents – or whoever adult it is that raises you. This is something you cannot change or influence, as they are the first people whom you imitate in order to learn the basics of life.
Other family members who are around you become the extended ideals. Elder brothers and sisters, uncles and aunts, regular visitors to your home. You start extending your world and with it your ideals even further. You start going to school and your teachers become ideals. Friends, neighbors and even people whom you don't know personally, like singers or actors, join the list.
When you are small, all these people are just overall great. You accept them as perfect just as they are, without seeing them as real humans with faults and mistakes. This you have to learn bit by bit as you get older and gain perspective. Suddenly you realize that they may be excellent in one area of life but that you should not copy them in another.
You don't only gain perspective, you get mature and have to decide yourself what the characteristics are that you should strive for and what you should imitate or not.
And at some point you have to realize that you are you and that you don't have to be like anybody else. You don't need an ideal to imitate or copy because we all are different and you are unique, too.
You can always look at others for inspiration. Applaud the good and see it as something you can implement in your life. Never however should we stick to our childish way of creating an absolutely perfect ideal – it only leads to covering up their faults with excuses and lies.
Nobody is perfect but we all are unique. And so are you – so just be you, as best as you can!
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