Be careful with judging others - they may do the same with you!

Don’t you sometimes think that we judge others too easily? That we decide to have a certain opinion about them simply based on seeing them for a very short time, acting in a certain situation? Do you realize you are sometimes judged the same way?

I am someone who says we need judgement. Yes, we do need to judge what is right or wrong, good or bad otherwise we will never in life be able to take decisions. Judgement on others however, should always be handled differently! You may have to judge quickly on whether you want to go way A or way B but when meeting another person, you are not in a rush and may not ever need to make a final judgement at all!

See, we usually get to know a glimpse of a person in our daily life. Unless you spend a lot of time with the other one, there is no way you can really understand where he or she is coming from, why they act the way they do and what they are thinking about.

So you go through your life, catching glimpses of other people’s lives. Some of us right away make our judgement: the woman in the business suit is money-focused. The man with his two children is a good father. The old lady with a bag full of empty bottles is a heavy drinker. But how do we really know?

Life is not black and white. Circumstances lead to actions, many colours paint a picture. Your way does not always have to be the right one. Maybe for you, maybe not for others around you! You may feel good the way you live but there can be others who want to live differently and just because you wouldn’t enjoy that, they may very well do!

By judging, we try to categorize the world and put it in a system that it actually doesn’t fit in. We don’t realize that in the consequence we sometimes react in a negative way on others which is completely uncalled for. We may even prevent positive things from happening to us by doing this quick judgement.

Keep an open mind. This will help you incredibly while trying not to judge others. Remember that there may be other circumstances than what you see right away. And even if you don’t approve – the other one is free to think and act differently, isn’t he? Many times, it won’t even affect you in any way, so you can let it go instead of reacting to the difference.

I think it would help most of us to take all these points into consideration when meeting other people. Be open for each other and anything new that comes your way!