Honesty is also a very important factor for true healing. There it is especially the honesty with yourself. Of course, because you always are at first dishonest with yourself and then with the other one. It is a decision to lie, not to tell or to hide the truth. You first take the decision and this is the point where you are already dishonest. And when you say the lie you are already one step further.
There are many problems that we actually generate simply by not being honest. Dishonest people cannot sit quiet. They are restless. They always need something to do because sitting quiet would mean for them that they have to think about their lies and everything that they need to take care about. It is actually not difficult to be honest, it is more difficult to be dishonest because you always have to think about what you are saying to whom, what you told them before and how you presented yourself before. If you were dishonest once and you don’t want to look dishonest, you need to keep up the lies and pretending. And if you then sit down and just want to relax, all things will come into your mind that might go wrong, where you maybe said something else than before, where the other one could maybe feel that you were dishonest before.
Dishonesty brings restlessness and much stress and pressure. This stress can result in different mental, emotional and even physical problems. This is why I say you first of all have to be honest. When you achieve this, you will realize how stress and pressure is reduced and you will feel how healing takes place. I believe in living honestly and I have nothing to hide. I think this is the easiest way to live because I don’t have any worry that someone will find out about any secrets or lies. I can say whatever I feel, just freely.
We had a wonderful dinner with many great people again! I love eating with many people and enjoying these great moments of eating together.
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I am bookmarking this entry in order to read it on a regular basis; maybe I will read it each morning when I wake up and each night before I close my eyes. I usually fall asleep reading a book and do not have a clear mind when I finally close my eyes. I am looking forward to reading this instead. It makes me feel very clear.
I have a friend who lies a lot when stressed. He makes himself more and more aggrevated the more he lies, adds to the stress, can’t scape until he’s one of the most unbearable people to be with. All you have to do is calm him down and he’s wonderful.
That meal looks delicious!
This is so true, Swami. It takes tons of energy to contain and organize all your lies… you have to worry about getting caught in a lie and it causes much stress. And how silly! Why not just be who you are? You don’t have to tell everyone everything about yourself… but you don’t need to make things up either! It’s always weird when you find out that someone is a frequent liar. It makes them feel worse about you than if they just knew the truth about you in the first place!