Are those people whom you trust your friends?
One thing is for sure: if you cannot trust your friends, you will have very few people whom you can trust. Trust is one of the basics for a real friendship. Of course you can call many people your friends but there are probably big differences if you look at how much you trust these friends.
If you daily meet someone at the bakery or on the way to work and you have a chat with that person each second or third day, then you would probably call this person your friend. There can be several of this kind of ‘street-friends’ in your life. And it is good to have several of them because they can make your day bright and colourful. You may however not let them hold your purse while you pay the bus driver and you may also not tell them that you are afraid your husband cheated on you. Your trust in these people is not that big that you could entrust them with this.
This also shows you the level of your friendship. If it is only superficial, you will not have the trust of telling about your deep feelings. In a real friendship you tell the other one about your fears and your love, about your concerns and your excitement. You can share tears and laughter and trust that your friend will be at your side through all of this. No matter when you call, if there is an emergency he will be there. No matter what there is to celebrate, she will be there to congratulate. No matter what grief is shaking you, he will be there to hug you and no matter what you want to tell, he will have an open ear and express his honest opinion to your thoughts.
A real friend is someone whom you trust.