I was thinking a little bit more about the habits and manners at dinner. Some people keep the habit of not talking during eating time, others share their whole day with each other. When we were staying with Joanne and Jeff, we were introduced to one of their small dinner rituals: Everybody tells one ‘high’ and one ‘low’ of his day. If you do not have a low, you can also tell two highs. So you tell the others what was the best thing in the day and something that made you sad or angry.
It is a nice little ritual but the most important thing about this for me is that you get to share the day with each other. Often when both parents are out working throughout the day and the kids are with other people or alone at home, they do not really have much family life anymore. They do not know anything of each other anymore. Then characters develop separately from each other and on the next bigger occasion like Christmas or another celebration, everybody wonders with whom they are actually celebrating. They have lost each other on the way and don’t know each other anymore.
I feel in that kind of situation it is just very important to keep a small ritual like common dinner. Please, have dinner, lunch or breakfast or maybe all meals together. It will connect you with each other and it will be good for everyone. I say in this way love can go through the stomach. Share your day with each other, take part in each other’s lives!
I love eating together with other people. It is for sharing food, for being together, for feeding each other. And this is how we enjoyed dinner today, too, with Su and a friend.