Yesterday I was writing about expressing feelings. I said that because of the system people are not able to appreciate something right away. I hear about another issue here very often. People say to me ‘I have to learn to say no’. Of course this also has to do with your ability to express. If you don’t want to do something, why can’t you say no? You want to be formal and polite but this creates problems for you and you will not enjoy it later. This can bring you into strange situations in which you do things that you did not want to do.
We definitely need to learn to say no and should not have this formal attitude in which we cannot be honest and cannot express what we really want. This shows again that we are living and thinking for others instead of living for ourselves. There would not be any need to learn this if you just could be yourself and could honestly express your feelings. Because then others would also get to know it if you do not like something.
Sometimes it can happen that people don’t know what they really want. Then it is difficult for them to express. There is a lack of sensitivity about your own feelings and you do not know what you want. If you cannot feel yourself, you don’t know what you want and you will not be able to say no. I would like to say that you have to become more sensitive for your feelings, then you will know more clearly what you want. Don’t ignore your feelings. That will make it easier for you to say no if you don’t want something.