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Ability of Children to Forgive and Forget – 12 Feb 10

I mentioned sometime already that it is great how small a child's world is. When a toy breaks, everything is broken for him but then again, just a few minutes later, there is another beautiful world waiting for the child. I said that we should more often be like children and I also think that we should sometimes learn to forget more quickly, just like children.

I know a man who was stopped on the motorway by police for driving too fast. The police men were not very friendly with him and he was fined. He told me this one day later still angry. He was angry that he had been caught, angry that the police was waiting exactly at that point, angry that they had been unfriendly and angry that he had to pay.

Okay, he was angry on the second day but you wouldn't believe it, he told the same story again when we met again after half a year and he was still angry! Why do you get so angry about a small thing like this? Use it to learn something from it, then forget the event and keep the lesson. Why would you get angry after such a long time when you know it will not help you anything anymore?

It is even worse in a relation to someone else. Do you remember playing with others as a child and one day you were best friends, the next day you did not want to play with each other and then again a little later you were inseparable again?

I don't say you should be unstable but if something happened in between you, give it some time and then forget it. Leave it behind, how long will you carry something like that around?

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This Post Has 2 Comments

  1. Erica

    It seems like you cannot learn from things that don’t pass through you. Especially not with more violent emotions like anger or jealousy. Interesting.

  2. Emilia

    It would be wise to embody the care-free nature of a child. People need to realize that carrying around resentment, anger, or hatred for someone/something only harms you! You hold it in your body, harboring negative energy in your tissues. And it doesn’t matter how much anger you hold toward someone inside; they will never feel it… only you will! So let it go. Life has so many more things to enjoy!

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