Many times I have written about the strong family relations which I love in Indian culture. Sometimes I felt that some people do not give value to relationships and do not see how much they can hurt emotions by disrespecting or just not valuing relationships. Travelling in the western world I have often seen that the own ego can become bigger than any family relation, love relation or friendship. They cannot nourish the relationship and as a result we see that something breaks or that there is a lot of poison and bitterness in relations.
Mostly the problem arises when we blame somebody for something. We forget that if the same thing will happen to us, what would be our own reaction? People do not see themselves when they blame someone else. The main reason is again ego. Interesting is that they see clearly how all problems arose because of ego and they blame another person for their ego but unfortunately they do not see their own ego. Otherwise there might not be any problem at all.
Sometimes this ego can make you blind so that you are not able to see the truth which will affect your decisions. Which decision should you take? You don’t know what is right and wrong. The big problem is that in a result this can hurt many people. Many times destructive emotions and feelings arise because of ego. Then all energy is spent in destroying, creating problems and separation. I think this is the reason why family relations and love is not that strong in the western culture.
Why are family relations strong in Indian culture? The main reason is unavailability of ego. Not any family can be joined if every member of the family kept the ego high. This is the key for the success of joint families. People are there for each other and of course trust is an important factor. If ego comes and there is not trust, then this western disease will come into the Indian culture, too, which is already happening in big cities. I am very proud of my family and our family relations where nobody is keeping their ego among each other. We have a wonderful relation, love and trust.