You have to make your Decisions yourself – 4 Jun 08


Today I had a lot of healing sessions again. The first patient was a woman who had called just yesterday to have a session today because tomorrow she will be in hospital for an operation. She has breast cancer and came to me not only for healing but for consultation, too. She told me the story of her disease, when it started and that the appointment would be tomorrow.

Actually she did not want to go to the operation and wanted to hear from me that there was no need to go and that the healing session would be enough. So she said that she always made her decision in the last minute and if I could help her to make it.

I said to her ‘yes, I can help you and give you energy so that you get more clear with your decision but I cannot decide for you. If you decide to go to hospital I can tell you that the healing session is good before and after the operation. However my work is not a substitute for medical treatment.’

Sometimes people come to me and would like me to decide for them but I can’t and won’t do that. They need to take responsibility themselves. People do this with many questions and decisions. They let someone else do it and if something good comes out of it they take credit for it, if something goes wrong it is not their fault, they can blame others. Easy but not responsible.

11 Replies to “You have to make your Decisions yourself – 4 Jun 08”

  1. Good decision making is an essential skill to lead a successful life. If you can learn to make timely and well-considered decisions, then you can often lead your life to well-deserved success. However, if you make poor decisions, your team risks failure and your time as a leader will, most likely, be brutally short.

  2. Decision Making Under Uncertainty is very complicated stage of life “This is where you need to manage the level of uncertainty you’re working with, so that you can make a decision based on” rational, disciplined thought.

  3. To take right decision one need to take look for all the pros and cons of the situation. after understanding benefit and lose one can go for decision . my decision can not take someone else i have to judge the situation and take decision.

  4. once you have collected all the information about the situation you need to be positive to take right drecision as till the time i dont know what i want wht decision will i take. If i know what i want i cant take write decision. Be with yourself while taking decision.

  5. Your values are the things that you believe are important in the way you live and work. They (should) determine your priorities, and, deep down, they’re probably the measures you use to tell if your life is turning out the way you want it to.

  6. Wouldn’t it be nice if we had a little swami on our shoulder to make all of our decisions! Sadly this is not so. Only we can take responsibility for our decisions and choices.

  7. Haha yes, for some reason, when faced with a difficult decision, we wish that someone else would just choose for us! We would be okay with either option if we knew it was the only way… but it isn’t! There are two ways and it’s up to us, and only us, to choose.Some people flip coins or ask for advice. But you can tell what they secretly wish for because of their reaction. If the coin lands on “heads” and their heart sinks a bit and they make a face… you know they’d rather have tails! So go with it. 🙂

  8. While obviously its important to make our own decisions, I think its the role of friends and counsellors to offer advice to allow for more informed decisions – while not making the decision friends and close people must still offer opinions and information to make the best decision.