There have been many comments on yesterday’s topic and I am very happy about this. The idea why I am writing about this is to bring it more into the public and make people aware of how common it still is.
Teachers need to be trained not to hit any child. Violence is not a solution for education. Children at some point also get used to it and think ‘Okay, what will happen? I will get beaten, that’s it’ and not care about learning anymore at all.
I remember my school time and there were some boys and girls in our class who were daily beaten. It was like a daily program. Certain teachers had certain children whom they liked to hit most. So it was already clear before a class started that this boy or girl would have to go to the front to be beaten. However these children often had this kind of attitude that they would walk up there in a kind of proud manner. About children who were beaten regularly, teachers said things like ‘He has skin like a rhinoceros, so you can hit him but he will never change!’ They knew their beating would not help but still they hit them each day.
It might be that the teacher just didn’t like that child and for that this child got hit on regular basis. I remember that it was my situation with some teachers, too. I did not do any mistake but I was the one being punished. I was a very good student however their personal attitude made them hit me.
The rest of the class would already be afraid simply from this incident. Some teachers just hit one child in the beginning of the class to have a scared crowd of children in front of them. Those teachers who were most cruel were considered as strict teachers. Children were terrorized and that made them be quiet which perhaps made others think he was a good teacher.
This kind of punishment was always very cruel. Some teachers used hard wooden sticks. Others took a fresh and bendy twig from one of the trees in the courtyard to hit with that. That was even worse and often we saw bruises and sometimes even blood. Slapping with the bare hand was done with full force. Some teachers also pinched, but not softly but they grabbed some skin of the belly and twisted. At the belly skin is soft so it was easy and hurt very much. Other teachers or for other mistakes students had to take a pencil, put two fingers of one hand under and two fingers over it and place the hand on the table for the teacher to hit on it. All of your fingers would hurt after such treatment.
Sometimes teachers liked to play a cruel game. The teacher asked a question and a student had to give the answer. If the answer was wrong, the child had to stand up and the teacher would ask the next one. If he got the answer right, he had to go and slap the first student. Now think these two children were friends! The first child did not want to hit his friend but had to, otherwise the teacher threatened to hit him. For the one who was being hit it was not only a physical punishment, it was psychologically, too. Imagine their situation when they would meet after this class!
Teachers in my school-time always seemed frustrated and angry. This was how they took out their aggression and anger. Corporal punishment, spontaneous hitting, pinching slapping and more. A child of four to thirteen years cannot do anything against this adult person! But this is not any way to get respect, it just creates fear.
And this all, what I am telling you, is my own experience. I did not take this from anywhere else, I saw this with my own eyes. I left school before I turned thirteen, so this is what a child of less than twelve years experiences in school. When I remember those teachers who were hitting, I can say honestly, that I will never in my life have any respect for them. I do not see them as good teachers.
But this is not only my story, it was very normal and unfortunately is still. Times have to change, make people aware of it! Violence brings only fear and again violence and never can it bring respect and love. Children learn best with love and interest.