Discouraging Dishonesty in Poor Children – 12 Jan 11

Charity

The results of the climate change of the last years can be seen and felt everywhere on this world. Winters are more cold and records are broken of how much snow has fallen, how cold it was and how many people have died because of this weather. In India, more than 120 people have already died because of the cold this year and most of them in our state, Uttar Pradesh.

Even in nicely built houses there are no facilities for proper heating as it is usually only needed for two to three weeks each year. Nowadays we use electrical heaters to warm up the rooms of the Ashram. But what should people do whose houses are huts of wood and straw? Or those people who sleep in the street, on the stairs of temples, simply on the floor with a blanket because they have no home to go to? The temperature daily drops down until about two degrees centigrade in the night. The government has also declared that all schools will be closed because of the cold. Many schools don’t even have benches or chairs for the children to sit on. This is how the children of our school also don’t have to learn in school these days.

Nevertheless there are always children coming and going at the Ashram and we try to take good care that they pack themselves nicely in winter clothes. However this also is not always as easy as it sounds. We have distributed caps, socks and mufflers among everybody and Christmas presents also consisted of warm pullovers and pants. In this way we have taken care that those children whom we see regularly here have enough clothes not to freeze.

Still however, we constantly see them coming to the Ashram in light clothes, in T-shirts instead of pullovers, without caps and even with bare feet! If you ask them where their warm clothes are, they reply that they are at home or that they lost them. We tell them to search for them and wear them the next time when they come. There are cases however when all attempts are in vain. The shoes or clothes remain lost and so we go and get them another pair of shoes, another cap or whatever went missing. We don’t like to see them shiver and we don’t want them to get a cold, so we either give from clothes that people donated or we spend money to buy them what they need.

You can imagine though, how it feels if the same child comes again the next week – again without shoes! We know that pairs of shoes don’t get lost that easily and we also know the mentality of their parents. They see, if their child does not have shoes, we will provide shoes. So they take the shoes off their children’s feet and send them here, walking on cold sand and cold stone so that they get another pair of shoes from us! And it is not only small children! Even children of up to 13 years old do this, children who could think of wearing their shoes on their own. But they learn from their parents!

We don’t like to see children shivering and freezing but we don’t want to be taken advantage of either. You understand the dilemma we are in and with which we have to cope. So we tell them again and again, we talk to the parents, we bring shoes that are to be worn only at the Ashram and we try to make everybody understand that we will always be giving and giving if they behave honestly, but not if they cheat on us. So I hope, when these children will be grown up, they will realize what we were doing, understand our intention and use the value of honesty in their every day’s life.

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  1. Ursula Nujici

    Sad to hear this … I really hope our children will understand and realize when they grow up what you all are doing for them and value honesty as a highest goods in life …love and honesty 🙂 …. we only can be examples for every one around us and specially for Children just in the way we live our life, our deeds , how we handle situation and how we treat others and the nature in every day life:)Love …

  2. Bonnie Rogers

    This is a difficult situation. It sounds like you are handling it well. It is always refreshing to read that the ashram family never seems too discouraged to be loving in action.

  3. Mike from Boise

    41% of India falls below the international poverty line of 1.25 dollars a day. People are trying to survive. I wish these children and families could see and feel what they are being offered.

  4. Ryan Jones

    In some circumstances the light of love and honesty cannot be seen by someone who is too mind identified. It is strange, it is sad and it is no ones fault. We give ourselves a great gift by letting it be.

  5. Rebekah Morris

    This is very sad. These parents are crazy! turning their kids into scammers. Teaching them how to be unhappy and grow into adults who also use their freezing children as pawns to get more shoes. So sad.

  6. Charles Gheri

    These kids are lucky to have you in their lives. and it is disappointing to hear that parents are using them like this. That’s not love!

  7. Saundra

    Poor cold babies! They need love and warmth.

  8. Wendy Miller

    I am wondering what these parents do with their child’s extra pair of shoes. They won’t fit a parent. Are they a back up pair? Do the parents want to feel secure in knowing that if their child’s shoe breaks they will have another? Hamydown? Do they give them to their friends or sell them? Christmas tree ornament?

  9. Lilly Pasture

    I hope this children will remember your example as much as their parents.

  10. Caleb from Texas

    This just sounds extraordinarily frustrating. I just don’t understand why parents wouldn’t anticipate what this would cost their child…Of course this is a damaging example for their children but additionally, they are stealing from the hand that feeds them…Money lost on shoes means money not spent on other things these kids need. It is just, so darn frustrating.

  11. Charity

    Once me and a friend of mine where stanidng on the street in Vrindavan and a woman asked us for money for new shoes for her child. My friend felt very sorry for the girl and gave her the 150 rupees in her pocket. The next day the woman came back and said it was not enough and she would need 1,000 more. Can you believe it?

  12. Emily

    It is definitely sad that the parents manipulate their children like this. I think the children, on their own, wouldn’t try to lie and scam the ashram for more clothing because they see all the other children every day who are also cold and in need of clothing. The parents should be teaching their children honesty.
    It also makes me sad to see parents using their children as beggars on the street. They know that people feel compassion for adorable little children who are in need and are more likely to give money or food to children than adult beggars. But it’s not fair to put a child in this situation.

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