For the last two days I have been writing about beauty and plastic surgery to make your body more beautiful. Our friend Blanche, who is currently at the Ashram, read the articles, too, and mentioned to Ramona that many people also have surgery when they get older – in order to look younger. It is true, many women regularly get Botox injected so that their wrinkles are not visible anymore. Their skin looks tighter and younger. Others have skin removed or tightened by surgery in order to avoid parts of their body look as though they aged with age. Obviously I am not in favour of this kind of plastic surgery either.
I can only say again and again that you need to accept yourself and your body as it is. Why do you have the feeling that your age makes your body in any way less beautiful? What do you think a few wrinkles do to you? Your physical body has always changed, from the beginning of your life and it will keep on changing until the end! But you were beautiful when you were a baby and you will be beautiful when you are 80 years old, too.
I believe the problem is created in society by the idea that young and beautiful means successful, attractive and loved. This idea is generally generated through movies, TV shows and also advertisement. There are young women everywhere, flawless skin, no cellulite, no wrinkles, skin that is tight and bodies that simply show youth. The pictures we see are unrealistic and modified by computers but they enter the mind and create an idea of beauty that it directly connected with all these attributes, the most important probably being youth.
The result is that it becomes more and more difficult, not only for women but also for men, to accept that everybody gets older and that the body will very naturally show signs of this ageing process. No anti-ageing lotion and no botox can stop this process! And at some point you have to accept that you are getting older! If you have problems accepting that you turn 30, you will have bigger problems when you are 40 or 50 years old. And what should happen to you when you are 80 years old? You will spend your whole life worrying about your age instead of enjoying that you get wiser and more experienced.
This pressure can create real psychological problems! Some people fall into depression because they get older and because they believe that their age makes them less beautiful and all in all reduces their value. It is a serious psychological effect of the way society presents age.
There is no way around the fact that you get old but of course there are many ways with which you can stay young, mentally and physically. Yoga and meditation for example help your body and mind to remain flexible. Exercise and active thinking processes are vital.
Who says anyway that a certain age is old? Are you old when you are 70 or does it start already when you are 50 or even earlier than that? You are as old as you feel yourself and your age, the number of years that you have spent on this earth, don’t have much to do with your real age.
Love your body also in the process of getting older. Why would old people not be beautiful? Just as a child has its beauty, age also has its own beauty! See that every wrinkle means you have used your skin and make sure that there are laugh lines around your mouth and eyes! They are signs of the joy you have experienced and they bear proof of a happy nature. Don’t fear them and don’t artificially remove them. Celebrate them and love them!
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Actually this topic is very popular among women in their 30ies. I guess that’s when your first wrinkles start to appear and then you probably realize that you are getting “old”. To me, each wrinkle tells one story of your life. If you have a lot of laugh lines around your eyes, it gives them an extra spark. It shows, that you experienced a lot of pleasure in your life. Every wrinkle adds character to your face. I love to look at faces with a lot of wrinkles – it is like reading a book.
Maybe some of the people who use plastic surgery for “eternal youth” are just afraid of perishability: with each new line in their face, they feel like they are getting closer to death…?
In the West we are heavily influenced by advertising campaigns and media obsession with looking young. The emphasis always seems to be on looking beautiful, sexy, fashionable as if looking healthy and happy is not enough. Here at the Ashram Naniji has one of the most beautiful faces I have ever seen and her eyes and wrinkles tell so many stories and exude so much love. If you are scared of getting old and facing death perhaps it is because you are not satisfied with your life and yourself and no amount of plastic surgery is going to help with that.
Yes I would agree with u..
I thinky why so many people in Western countries are afraid of getting old, is the fault of all the TV shows and fashion magazines. Their percepetion is, that getting old automatically means to get ugly. Are you ugly because you have grey hair and wrinkles? Don’t you think that life experience and wisdom brought by age might be beautiful?
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. When people get plastic surgery I think it reflects how superficial they are on the inside too.