Yesterday I wrote about breathing more deeply and how many benefits you can get from this. Of course it is a great benefit just in the normal day, in everyday’s life but it also is really worth taking a deep breath in other situations, too.
One of these situations obviously is when something happens that makes you suddenly very angry. If it is really bad you feel how your blood pressure rises, you hear how the blood rushes into your head, the head gets red and you feel the heat and you want to shout or hit something or kick the wall. Ever had this situation? Did you really kick the wall or hit something? If yes, you know that you didn’t get anything good from that. It is just not worth to hurt your hand or break a toe just for this short moment of anger.
If your employee just told you that he accidentally deleted a whole harddisk full of important files or if your boss just called to call you in for another important meeting although you had plans for a romantic dinner with your partner, take a deep breath. Or better: take a few times a deep breath which fills you fully with air and close the eyes and slowly exhale again. Feel how your blood pressure is reduced, how your head cools down again and how your anger gets less urgent, less strong, less important.
There is something good in everything and you will have to make the best out of situations that you just cannot change. Of course you need to tell your employee that he made a mistake, but he probably knows that already and doesn’t need you to shout at full voice at him for noticing that it was wrong. Nothing is as dramatic as it seems in the first moment and this is how a few deep breaths can save you from your own anger.